If the problem was as easy as you're implying, I would have solved this long ago. I have kissed many times without it leading to sex, and been happy with it.
Hugs and kisses are not as often as they should be. Mostly I initiate.
Yes, I do the kinds of things you suggest and expect no sex. And my expectation is always fulfilled -- no sex.
You may as well make your "expectation" a point of strength from you. You know one way or another your going to have a sexual life while you remain on this earth.