It looks like you are pushing forward and doing very well for yourself. This is great and I can almost feel some happiness in your words
You are doing really well IMO and need to continue.
My thought is to start or continue if you have started looking at your codependency. You seem to have it with your H and family. I think once you understand codependency more, you will see yourself different or at least what changes can be made to help you.
You love your H I get that. Your H is on his road and seems to have had several issues prior to taking this road. I think you are doing what you need to do. Work on you and let him work on him.
If the time comes that he wants to come back, he will need to make many changes, as the new you will not be wanting the old him.
As so many have told me, all you can do is work on you.
Being a LBS is a choice and it is not an easy road, as you well know.
Time and patience.
Did you ever get the privacy thing worked out?
Thanks JP You're right, I won't want the old H back. I am happy today, I just had a bit of a downer yesterday and I blame H for putting me there. Can you elaborate on the privacy thing as I've slept since then If you mean my computer then I've got a password set on it now and I do feel more relaxed about H coming into the house now He has started to tell me when he's coming round and what he's coming round for. Like I said, I don't think that I can say anything to him without it sounding harsh.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
