BKS, I agree with you completely, there's a lot of wreckage to sort through if W ever decided she wanted to try at the M. I definitely would not just throw the door open and tell her to move back in. I don't even know if I would want to be married to the person she's become because she is so vastly different than who she was even 2 years ago (I'm about to post an update to my thread going into how D16 and I had a long talk last night and D16 said she doesn't even know who her mom is anymore). We'd have to start back with the basics- dating and getting to know each other again. The chemistry is no longer there, so a big question in my mind is whether we can even get it back. And there are big trust issues that would have to be dealt with too. It would be many months before I would consider letting her move back in, and I would insist on MC and returning to RetroV before that could happen.
