Pregnant h wants a divorce after deployment

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I think you can be nonchalant (acting like everything is fine) and still spend time together. You still live together so some advice won't apply.

You can ask him to do things together, it's just important that when he declines you go ahead and keep living life whether he comes along or not.

Right now you want to take advantage of any time you can spend together showing him how enjoyable it is to be with you. Be fun, happy, (smile like its your job), don't get into relationship talks, etc. show him that he can be around you and not have to feel guilty abt the mistakes he's made.

Also it sounds like you have excellent chances of working this out if you can show unconditional love to him right now. Who cares what he says about loving OW? If he's worried about you and your family not being able to forgive him it sounds like he'd like to move past this but doesn't know how. Plus he's still spending time with you and is open to counseling. This is why everyone says not to believe anything he says... Because this man is not done with you. He's just a little lost right now

Hang in there!