Nero it was lovely meeting you! You have a great house, thanks so much for your hospitality. It was great sitting around, crying and laughing and cursing! Sorry about that!
Nero "YA EVER WONDER HOW i cut this h soooooo much slack on the getting married thing????? i WAS married and felt trapped like a rat - two years. why? idk - kept thinking "is this allll there is) ex h had some biggish issues,
this one was just "my size" - hence my believe we're MEANT to be together. this mlc or his insanity- or whateve rit is- is driving me up the wall. if i had complete FAITH in him- still being in there- (like it this was a disease and he'd be cured for sure ) i'd be doing better."
Nero, a piece of paper does not make two people married. Living a life of devotion and love for 38 years makes two people married. Of course you had complete faith in him, that is what married people are supposed to do. I am afraid of becoming cynical, I already find myself not trusting strangers. Looking for the bad instead of the good like I used to. Then have to scold myself a bit and admonish myself that I will not let my H's MLC change me, except for the better. Except for the changes I can see that are needed. Not all the crap he told me - too short, too fat, he did not like the way I clean the house, I was around the house too much. He had nothing of substance to complain about, so he started making things up, and such heart breaking things - he had to beg me to ML and then I turned him down 75% of the time, because I have been cheating on him for the past 38 years. Whew!
Maybe it IS time for you to be more honest and straight forward with your H the next time he flies up to spend time with you. But first you have to know what it is that you want. Do you want to live a married life with him again? Would you be willing to move back to the dreaded Florida to make that happen?
It's all so hard, isn't it?
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
