180 the thing that was on my mind is if H is really wanting to come home and I know I can't believe anything he says or do at this time I just want him to come home what I'm fighting with my mind is telling it to stop thinking that he is coming home and start living as its over between us until it actually happens. And if he does come home we have lots of work to do to make sure we don't head down this path again because I can't and won't go down this path again. Ok enough of that I have a big surprise for my boys tonight they don't know that I'm going to take them to the drive in to watch a movie. So its going to be a big surprise to them I can't wait
Hope you enjoy your trip to the movies I've had that when I've been in bed tossing and turning, my mind saying one thing and my heart saying another. It's terrible! Hopefully you'll have a better night tonight I find that if I'm having a bad night like that, then I switch my pc on and go on this forum. Sometimes just reading other people's sitches helps
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
hi K, hope you had a nice outing with your boys. sometimes just spending time with my kids hanging out watching tv/movie, makes me realize that I will be ok...we will be ok
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
I can't do this anymore I need to get my family back together again. I know I still have a long road ahead of me but I don't know how much longer I can hang onto hope that I will be able to save my marriage. At this time I wish I could just go away for a little while just to be able to clear my head. I am taking a week off from work at the end of this month I'm hoping to take that time to figure things out and to spend some quit time for myself and to come up with new plans for myself and for my boys.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Kelela, did something negative happen? Why the talk to letting go of hope. You have come a long way as far as you R w/ H...to the point he's actually considering coming home. What I am wondering is what internal changes have you been working on for you. I know in the past you've talked of GALing by going to the movies, changing your hair.... but what are you doing for the inside? You should be proud of your self for having the self-control to keep your cool w/ this sitch w/ your H.....also (something I am working on as well) be so busy improving your self that you don't have time to think of your R. If you are working on yourself, to be better for you, it won't feel like you are working on your M....put your hope into being a better you, then you won't need to worry about losing hope for your M b/c thats not where it is.
Are there any internal changes you've been working on? Do you have a hobby? Do you have time w/ friends outside of MIL and the kids? Maybe start reading books that are focused on subjects you've always wanted to learn about?
Sorry if I am off base w/ my post...I just want happiness for you and since your first thread there just seems to be a heaviness, as I said before you've made it this far, don't give up now!
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
....also I think your idea is good to take a little time off & maybe make a vision board/plan for the future for yourself...kind of a where do you want to see your self in the next few years; inside and out. A plan that you will follow through with even if your H does return.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
I agree with Mimi that some time off would be really good for you. You've been through a lot and you need to take that break. I'm sure you'll feel better afterwards .
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I agree with the above posts It'll be good to take some time away and re-evaluate where you are now and where you are going. Keep up with the PMA and the GALing. Try and stay strong, we're here for you You are doing so well
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Hello everyone I'm sorry I just had an off morning but I'm doing a lot better now. I had spoken to one of my friends at work this afternoon she and her husband just got back together after being separated for the last 10 1/2 monthes. And the steps she had taken was not having any contact with him and she did a lot of praying. And she also told me that I'm doing a great job with my GAL and taking care of my boys and not to give up hope and take each day one day at a time and most of all I need to give us both lots of time and space and things will all work out in the end
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
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