Im confused about divorce busting. I have read the book, but am not sure if acting nonchalant is the best for my marriage. Did I get the wrong idea from the book? I keep reading Sandi's rules and think that in our case, I need to spend more time, not less, with H, since he was gone for 6 months. In therapy yesterday, he mentioned that while in Afghanistan he felt that that became his reality and that he is slowly coming back home. I feel that I need to make him feel more at home by being more available and doting, but it goes against a lot of the advice here.
