come on legs keep moving and dont lose no ground..

[RosaLinda]

uRw "Had an amazing day with three incredible women - Rosa, Nero and albamarie.
For some reason, they thought I'd look matronly and was older -- Not sure why. LOL!"

I had a great time too, thank you Nero for opening your home to us and for that great lunch! uR, you are such a blessing to all of us, and it was great to just be able to sit around and BS. I am rather abashed that I thought you would be matronly, as old as me at least. It's because that is how you write, kind, loving and wise as an old owl. But let me go on record to tell you all that uR is teensy (I can see why her son calls her "little mom") and adorable, feisty and not above dropping several un-matronly F bombs herself. After all, she IS from Brooklyn

uRw "I knew that anger was holding me back. I was angry at him, at her, at MLC. And that was ok, for a time. But I realized that remaining angry at him or her was not going to change anything. But it was changing me. And I was no longer willing to sacrifice myself.
The Ow didnt care if I was angry, neither did my h. So, what was the point of continuing to hold onto that? That was just giving her my headspace and both of them my control. "

I read something on FaceBook, one of those pictures people post, that said that harboring anger and forgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. The other person does not care or sometimes even know you are angry. You are just poisoning yourself. I have found it a blessing to give up all of my pent up hate for my H's OW. Not sure why I hated her so much, when it takes two to tango for sure, but now I just feel sorry for her - a desperate unhappy woman who is willing to break up a family and 38 year old marriage to get herself an American husband and the resultant green card. Pathetic. Sad.

Hopeful2 "Not only am I a better person for surviving this but I believe I have taught my kids to be better people and to take the high road in all that life throws at them. I have a child who is living with a life threatening disease and he has looked around and saw others plights and has said how lucky he is.... Life is always about perspective..."

Wow your son is such a blessing and such a reflection of you, H2. Just like uR's son is such a blessing to all of us. He is also so loving and so giving and patient and strong despite his illness.

MLC sux, and I would not wish it on anyone, but just this moment realized that if not for my H going bonkers, I would not know all of the wonderful supportive people I am truly honored to be able to call my friends. And would have mindlessly blundered thru my life, unaware and unknowing. H's MLC has forced me to grow, and to grow up. Not a bad thing.