WR, I'm so sorry to hear this. He's the one projecting on to you, i.e., playing the victim. He admitted he wanted your attention and like a child, didn't know how to go about it and has now put you in a monetary bind on the mortgage. I'm afraid I saw this coming. Please try to make the payments yourself, but document them for your case. You can't rely on him and he's going to continue this type of behavior in retaliation of the fact that things are dragging out. He doesn't understand that it takes time to process all of the paperwork.
The more you try to reason w/him, the more he's going to dig his heels in. The best thing you can do is document and advise your lawyer of the issues.
Again, I am very sorry. Please take care of yourself and your boys.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
