This evening was tough. Counseling was really really hard.
H is still convinced that he loves OW and that our marriage was awful.
The counselor tries to show him that our problems were just mundane problems and that OW was not a real relationship.
H got very defensive a couple of times and the counselor did a few exercises on getting us to try and listen to one another because all we do is try to be right.
H says he was shocked when I acted nonchalant about the whole divorce thing on Saturday and that it bothered him.
It seemed, throughout the session, that H is still set in divorcing, but as we parked, I asked him, "why are you going to these sessions? Is there a part of you that still want to work on this?" And he said, yes, but with a very closed expression on his face.
- HIS MAIN CONCERN: that I will never forgive him and that our relationship will get worse, and that so many of my friends and family know about what he is doing. He is worrie about what they think and how they would interfere with our relationship.
- MY MAIN CONCERN: that he doesn't love me anymore and never will again, and even if he does, will I be able to get over all of this?
