I've pushed people to Divorce Busting for years - now here I am.
After 10 years of marriage to my wonderful, loving, beautiful wife - I cheated. She found out the first week of June. I totally ended the relationship with the OW and have not had any contact since then.
This summer was pretty brutal, but by mid-August we were back in the house together, going to see MFT weekly, attending church together, making love, having dates. We were a family again.
Then, about 3 weeks ago an email pops up from the OW. W and I saw it for the first time together. She could see that I had not read it or replied to it. But still, this pushed her over the edge. I think she started thinking that there is NO HOPE. That no matter what, years from now we are still going to be confronted with my stupidity over and over again.
She asked me to move out and I did. I've been DB'ing like crazy, best I know how and I thought things were going pretty well. She was arranging times for me to see our daughter and we having some limited, off and on phone and text interaction, but I wasn't pushing anything.
So today we went to our regularly scheduled MFT appointment. She asked W "what's new?" W said that she has decided that it is time to forgive and move on with a new life. MFT asks, "together?" and W says "not together."
MFT suggested that we go 3 weeks with NO contact whatsoever and come back to talk again, but W just digs her heels in and says that she has been thinking about this a long time and she just wants a divorce.
So, that's where I'm at. I'm the bad guy. I was soooo stupid and now I'm paying by losing everything that I really love. NEVER loved the OW. It was soooo not worth it.
