Need advice and friends

[RSmiles]

I have another layer to my situation- the communication problem extends to important issues such as our finances to the point where we can't seem to talk about it constructively at all.

I am frustrated that we are having difficulty having open, clear, (and I wish friendly) conversations about anything important. We can talk about TV shows and silly things, but nothing serious or meaningful. I think our communication styles are different, but there is also the lack of direct understanding. And I can admit this comes from both of us. I feel like I am straining to understand H's comments. H often gets angry and says he doesn't understand me either. Then, we can't figure out what's going on or what to do and he wants to end the conversation.

Would less talking solve this? Can I use DB to approach this or should I be looking at something different?