Getting there with 180 and GALing part 3

[TryingToDo180]

Well my biggest impression is you and your husband are extremely codependent, so am I and my W. Actually the codependency match you two share is very similar to ours.

So please read codependent no more.

I think this was asked, but I didn't see a response. What is it that you love about your husband? Actually what was it when you first met and what is it now?

I will get round to reading that one Thanks for your recommendation
I do remember my response to this question I think, lol. I've slept since then When I first met my H it was his sense of humour and his confidence that attracted me to him. He was good looking as well, but not in the sense of "corrr he's fit!". Sorry just an English saying
Now he's in MLC land, his sense of humour has changed and he's not funny anymore! In fact the whole MLC land thing is getting on my nerves and I just want him to come out of it. What I love about him now is a hard question to answer when he's being like he is at the mo, I just want him back so we can have our family back together. What I loved about him before he went off on his MLC trip was his emotional support with my son, we've got similar tastes in TV programmes and we still remind each other to record a certain programme even now. He's too cold hearted at the moment for me to feel anything for him, but I know that deep down I still love him. I know I'll never get my old H back as that marriage is dead, but I hope one day that I will get my new improved H back We've been married for 21 years and been through a lot together. That's nearly half our life we've been together! It is hard to think about what I love about him now, but I do know that if he does decide to come back then we'll have to do things right this time! My son finds it hard living like this, especially with his autism, and needs a set routine in order to cope day to day. It's hard to say why I love him now, when he first left my heart skipped a beat when I saw him but I'm learning to detach from him and so I don't allow myself to get emotionally involved with him at this present time. When he complains about money or his tiny flat, I just want to say "just come home!". I'm glad our spouses are similar JP as you may relate to what I'm saying.
Anyway I think I've rambled on too much, lol. I've been to help at the youth club that my son goes to and I feel a lot better than before Sorry to be such a misery earlier