I think things are progressing. She calls me regularly just for chit chat or about our D. Her affair is over. When we were together not answering her calls was a big problem. Being available at any time is crucial. I dated 3 women since January 2013 but I prefer loneliness.
Do you still need your husband? Would you reconcile after the end of his affair. I think if you want him back you should keep in touch.