"It's okay, little squirrely...PatienMan isn't going to hurt you."
This cracked me up!
Originally Posted By: PatientMan
It just kind of sux that R with me, in her mind, equates to "failure." But it is what it is, so all I can do is be patient (noting my definition in my previous post)...keep working on myself and being the best person I can be.
I can tell you are working on you! You have a great sense of humor even in the most uncomfortable situations with her. She is still not growing if she still sees you as "the problem". Most unfortunate for her, but you, my friend, are doing AWESOME at being the best you.
Ya know, I don't think she sees me as the problem anymore...I really don't. She's having a tough time with herself - and she knows it. What I think *I* represent, though, is the living, breathing, visible image of failure for her. If she feels she "needs" me in any way, well that = FAIL.
So as much as she tells me that she misses me and just can't seem to find happiness without me (all recent, but regular reiterations), it still hurts to have me around because I AM that reminder.
And that's a REALLY tough thing to try and fight. So I think the best way to fight it is to not really fight it at all.
Thanks for stopping by and for the kind words.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
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