Need advice and friends

[RSmiles]

Ok, thank you Another Stander. Yes, I definitely came back to the boards b/c I feel like I have fallen off track with my knowledge of DB and relationship tools. I am thankful there is a good chance for me to turn things around.

I have a lot to think about and I would like to set some initial parameters for myself. Feel free to give me feedback here.

-Love Languages
My H is acts of service. I'm not sure if he's words of affirmation- he does like to be appreciated but he doesn't want too many words. I am a little stuck on exactly what I should be adding here.

I feel there are some actions that I often take that please him, but apparently I'm not hitting all of them. For example he loves home-cooked meals and I usually make a nice dinner. I help him with some office tasks for his business (It's possible he may want more here). How else do I figure out what he wants when he is not talking to me or avoiding me?

-180s
Talking less.
Appreciating more.
Eliminating blame
Acting very happy as much as possible. (I think H picks up on my "dissapointment" too much)

GAL
Focusing on my own projects rather than talking to H. I have lots of art and crafts projects I love doing.