welcome back, and while I'm sorry you are here, I commend you for trying to get out in front of it!
I had the same question as advina....how did you two interact prior? What has changed?
I agree with AS's recommendation on 5LL...great book. On retrouvaille, I also agree it's a great program, but you'll only get out of it what each of you puts into it. If your H doesn't think he can grow as a person, or doesn't see the need to work on the M, I think it'll be difficult to really get a great bang for the buck.
