This may not even matter in six months

[KarenR]

Whatever happens you will be co-parents to your children together for the rest of your lives, and it is critical to have a healthy and respectful relationship to be the best parents you can be. There are many betrayals and trust issues that also need to be addressed. I hope you do speak to a DB coach (and there are a couple I would suggest, because of the mental health issues). Your coach will give you a very specific plan to start working on, so that you can start healing this relationship. Traditional marriage therapy probably wouldn't be helpful, but your coach will be a fantastic resource on the best way to go forward in your relationship and in your own personal needs to be healthy. Take good care.