Is There Anything Left...pt 3

[Not Quitting]

NQ, that's a lot to process. Think of it as a storm at sea. Just hang on, keep the ship on course, and wait for calmer waters.

And I’m getting seasick but it’s a change from that rollercoaster LOL.

You have the right idea. Take it at face value. H said what he felt at that moment (or thinks he felt...). Remember the mantra (Don't believe half of what he says...). The more important thing is that he opened up and communicated.

It’s not easy for him to open up to anyone. I’ll take what I can get for now .

You were very brave to listen and not react - crying is ok, we can't always fight that - I mean not saying anything. It [censored] that he put you in a bind like that, where you have to choose from the lesser of two evils.

The worst thing is that if I had the money to afford rent or a mortgage, I’d be in my own place in a heartbeat – I mean, 50 and still living with dad . Things just didn’t go according to plan when we moved from the UK – starting with the fact that too many companies in this country are unwilling to accept foreign work experience, even when the candidate has a Canadian university degree . Yet when I went to the UK from here, I had a really good full-time job within weeks of getting off the plane with no UK experience or education . And any time we were just about in the position to move into our own place something happened, like getting laid off from work .

When things got really tough for me, I would think about the last thing my DB coach said, and that was "promise me you won't make any major decisions or changes while your feeling down or depressed." That really helped me focus enough to get through those stormy seas!

Don’t worry, I have no intention of making any major decisions or changes yet. I would say I’ve never been one to rush into anything but I’d be lying – I married H within 4 months of meeting him - but normally I like to think things through thoroughly before jumping in.

No 2x4s, but a virtual hug. ((())) Haven't seen many of those on the forums these days.

Thanks for the hug – not your testerone overload again is it? LOL