It's pressure and it was for you, not her. You could have made the decision not to contact her.

If the pastor wanted to, he could call her.

If she wanted to contact him she could have figured out how.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss