Well right now I'm just keeping as silent and dark as possible so I don't have to deal with H or divorce right now.
That's perfectly fine. Often when the LBS goes dark on the WAS then it takes all the pressure off the WAS and they quit pushing the D quite as hard.
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I know it sounds stupid, but for the last few days whenever I feel the urge to write H anything, even if it's about his stuff he needs to pick up, I just write it out, and then delete it.
Not only does that not sound stupid, but we often recommend doing exactly that to people here. LBS's often feel like they need to write a letter or email to the WAS explaining things, or apologizing, or doing a temperature check, etc. We say by all means write it, then delete it! Don't send it! It has the same therapeutic effect as journaling, it helps you to feel like you got it off your chest even if no one else ever reads it. But sending it would be placing pressure on the WAS at a time they don't want pressure. When people have sent such notes, it's never gone over well. Often the WAS won't even acknowledge that they got it.
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I feel like just by writing it down, it's good enough.
EXACTLY!
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So this month's goal, just be happy with myself.
Great, but it's kind of generic. Break it down into achievable, measurable goals. You mentioned losing weight, good one. Getting a sexy costume and throwing a small party are also good small goals. Try to think of some more.
