Just an update on the holidays. Got my tax done, the wife was booked to be there but she didn't turn up. Decided to be very civil and allow half the investments to be claimed for her tax as well, even though I have paid for everything since the BD. Spent some dinner time with both boys, and then individual time with them also. Importantly no discussion about the wife with them at all. Still disappointed either didn't ask about me, the holiday in Melbourne or even if I am transferring. Organised some trees to be removed from the house I am coming back to, also new gates and the roof steam cleaned. All able to be claimed on next years tax.
Couple of questions to ask. 1. How do I prepare myself for seeing the wife and her family at my sons 21st at the end of the month? Especially when I don't get any practice at this. My personal view is act neighbourly, if asked mention I do not want to discuss anything apart from how are you, and that reply will always be "great". But I know my emotions will be hard to control outwardly, not anger emotion more tearing up emotion. 2 when should I tell the boys about my transfer? At this stage I haven't because the wife will then probably find out, and while it shouldn't change anything, I have this feeling in the pit of my stomach about her finding out could cause issues. 3 didn't ever believe I would be at this point in my marriage, but the BD is 12months in 3 weeks time.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
