Who is this woman & what has she done with my wife

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I have been following the program really well since my last panicked posts. I have been as Dark as possible, and have done zero snooping or recon.

W texted last week to ask for some of my S16's Adderall (for his use when he stays with her). She asked me to set it out on the porch as she understands that I am not talking with her right now.

I texted that I could actually hand it to her. Even offered to let her trade cars since she has been driving our beater/work truck for the past week.

I met her on the porch and handed off the meds. Naturally she looked great. New pants, slim, with riding boots and new glasses. I was pretty cool. We talked on the porch for maybe two minutes.

Don't remember what we talked about other than she said she has started watching Firefly on TV. Said I shoul watch it. I think I sort of ended the conversation, but D14 was waiting in the truck so she took off.

It was pretty tough. I did not try to hug her or anything stupid. No ILY or pleading nonsense. Cool.

I did feel extremely physically attracted to her, which made me very sad.

Oh yeah. I mentioned her past requests that we have some sort of "talk". Asked her what exactly she wanted to talk about. (Because I don't know if she wants to talk about D terms or OM or just wants to be buds again.)

She said she didn't need to talk about anything in particular, just that I would have to start talk ing to her eventually.

I sort of murmured, uh-huh. And then cut the conversation short.

Question:
How dark should I be? If she wants to be buds and hang out, isn't that Having Her Cake?

I don't want to alienate her or piss her off, but I don't think I can be all best buddies anymore. She crossed a red line when she filed for D, and emotionally kicked all my teeth out a couple weeks ago.

Not really feeling that I need to be there for her right now. Of course the risk is, she gets mad at me for being distant and unavailable.

Hanging out with her would also be tough for me emotionally. She wants to be close friends right away which is delusional.

Also makes it hard for me to keep the focus on me, where it belongs. I am GALing pretty well, and trying to work on PMA.

As usual all comments and suggestions would be welcomed.