You and my dad would get on very well - he has to make his own curries as I've never been much of a fan. I reckon that's because my mom wasn't either and she did majority of the cooking so I wasn't really introduced to curries until I was grown up and I've never really taken a liking to them. The only time dad cooked was on the BBQ, and we haven't done that in quite a while.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
We only have mild curries - Kormas mainly because my tum can't cope with anything too spicy I get IBS so I've got to be careful what I eat.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
It's more the smell of curry than the taste that gets me. If I don't like the smell of any food, I find that I'm really turned off. The ladies at work love going for sushi but again the smell is too much for me, not to mention the thought of eating raw fish .
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
As expected, there isn't going to be any packing done yet again. H texted me this morning asking if it would be okay to pop by the house and pick up his drill and the bits as he needs them for a reno job he's doing on the weekend. It was easy not responding right away this time as I was in a training session at work when he sent the text (my phone was on vibrate and I missed the text) . When I eventually responded I simply said "Thought you were coming round to do some packing tonight?" His response was almost immediate and was simply "Oh yeah, I'd forgotten that. I've slept once or twice since saying that."
He asked if he could stay for a little while to visit with S13 but that it wouldn't be long as he'll have to head back to the flat for dinner. Not sure if I should have, but I offered to him dinner (there's going to be leftovers either way ) - he declined. I'm pretty sure that if it was just S13 and I he'd have accepted the offer. He finds it very hard to be in the same room as my dad right now for very long. H always used to say he liked my dad and that he was the closest thing he had to a dad these days - he had a bad R with his own father after about age 9 when he was sent back to live with his mother because his father's GF's son didn't get on with him.
Of course, cutting people out of his life is one his actions that hasn't made any sense . He's been alienating a lot of his old friends. He went back to the UK in January for a time-out to sort his head out and try and figure out what he wanted from life. While he was there he informed his sister, brother, XW1 and mother that he was never ever going back to England, not even for his mother's funeral when that time comes. I was still in contact with SIL at that time and she found it very hard to understand why he would say something like that.
Of course, the last time he visited with S13 in the middle of the week, he cancelled his Sunday visit. Guess I'd better come with some alternate plan just in case the same thing happens this week.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
hmm that sounds about right! I'm not sure if H has given up his friends or not as I didn't know his new friends in the first place! Personally I would start deluttering when you've got time and just dump his things into a box. He might take forever to pack his stuff up and I should know I don't bothering inviting my H for dinner anymore as I know he's going to refuse. I've not even got my dad living with me either!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Wow, NQ. That was a heavy MLC fog bank rolling through your H's mind on his trip.
I can't do curry either. Tried Indian and Thai versions. I do like spicy food - Asian, or Mexican. Yum. But just can't handle curry! No sushi for me, either. I don't like fish much cooked. Never mind raw! Was goaded into it once and I felt sick all day!
I think it was Thai food that I had one time. It was so spicy it made my eyes water! I had this spicey prawn soup for starters. I only had a couple of mouthfuls and my head nearly blew off! My son had chicken satay which was much more my taste We didn't end up eating his food though, lol. The caretaker at college had brought in a chinese to eat and we could smell it in the salon. It was making us all hungry for Chinese! I may have to order one in one night I've not done that for ages!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
The local hole-in-the-wall Thai place (aren't those always the best?) by my old office spoiled me for life. Haven't ever found one I like the same way. I liked that they called the spice levels mild, medium, hot and Thai-hot! Some of the guys got into stupid macho hot escalations until their stomachs couldn't take it anymore. It was funny to watch the bald guy's head bead up with sweat, though.
All this talk of Indian and Thai food is making me hungry! I love pad thai and yellow curry. Yellow curry is pretty mild. I find my kids will eat some milder dishes like biryani, butter chicken, korma, and of course... naan bread Maybe I will make some green curry tomorrow.. ..
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
I get IBS so I've got to be careful what I eat.
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. He's been alienating a lot of his old friends. He went back to the UK in January for a time-out to sort his head out and try and figure out what he wanted from life. While he was there he informed his sister, brother, XW1 and mother that he was never ever going back to England, not even for his mother's funeral when that time comes. I was still in contact with SIL at that time and she found it very hard to understand why he would say something like that.
