Taking A Stand; What's my Position?

[Mimi00]

H called me yesterday, about financial stuff per usual. I told him a story about something that happened w/ the dog after and then he went on to talk about how great his job is, how much support he gets from the people there in general (he also went on and on about his supervisor and how supportive she is to him.............*sigh*), he then began asking me questions, like how to I like my job, what are my plans in working there and will I be moving closer to the city, also do I talk to my parents often and what do I plan to do with the building I purchased to start my non-profit in before BD.
I had no idea what to say, it was odd having questions asked of me by him b/c usually I let him talk and then I say goodbye, I'm not used to sharing and I don't know how much to share or how much to remain a mystery. I guess he could tell I was nervous/didn't know what to say, so I probably just came off as a loser. He said "I'm not quizzing you, just wondering how you're doing". If you're wondering how I am doing, why not just simply as that? (I didn't say that)---I responded that my focus is work and I haven't put much thought into any future plans...then I ended the conversation a few minutes later.

Which is true, I work 6 days a week just to survive and have $40 left over a month to GAL. How about I tell him the truth I can't continue to work I was doing putting together my non-profit stuff b/c obviously I had a husband who supported me financially so I could try out one of my dream, for once in my life...now I have to work 12hrs a day just to get by.

This crap is frustrating. It's been a little over a year since H initially told me he was unhappy, went to a few counseling sessions
9 months since we had to move apart b/c of his job
5 months since I started DB after him being unhappy again
3 months since he BD'd; officially moved hundreds of miles away. Not much has changed...but I guess my no contact and no-pursuing has put a halt to him filing for now b/c I'm not on his mind and he's busy w/ work.

Hi Mimi, unless you are sure you want to be finished, I wouldn't give up just yet. I'm no vet and my sitch is completely different from yours, but both of us are only three months in and as all the vets say, that is still the beginning of the marathon. Obviously ultimately your decision is up to you though, so best of luck and hugs and support no matter what you decide to do!

Hi Chl0. Thanks for checking on me in my thread. Hope you are well!