CBT, thanks so much for continuing to post, too many people disappear when they get to piecing! I think they're afraid they'll jinx themselves by talking about it, or maybe they think their DB'ing is officially over. But it gives great insight for those of us that aren't there yet.
Originally Posted By: cbtdad
She said that it never would have worked when we first separated because she didn't want it to work and she didn't believe that therapy could help anyways. She had been to therapists before and nothing seemed to change she said. She now admits that you have to want to change things. She said that it was only after several months that she really wanted to try because she felt I had really changed as a person and it made her start looking at herself.
^^^ This is really great info from the viewpoint of your reformed WAS, it helps to explain why some of the DB'ing advice we give works even though it seems counterintuitive.
