As expected, there isn't going to be any packing done yet again. H texted me this morning asking if it would be okay to pop by the house and pick up his drill and the bits as he needs them for a reno job he's doing on the weekend. It was easy not responding right away this time as I was in a training session at work when he sent the text (my phone was on vibrate and I missed the text) . When I eventually responded I simply said "Thought you were coming round to do some packing tonight?" His response was almost immediate and was simply "Oh yeah, I'd forgotten that. I've slept once or twice since saying that."
He asked if he could stay for a little while to visit with S13 but that it wouldn't be long as he'll have to head back to the flat for dinner. Not sure if I should have, but I offered to him dinner (there's going to be leftovers either way ) - he declined. I'm pretty sure that if it was just S13 and I he'd have accepted the offer. He finds it very hard to be in the same room as my dad right now for very long. H always used to say he liked my dad and that he was the closest thing he had to a dad these days - he had a bad R with his own father after about age 9 when he was sent back to live with his mother because his father's GF's son didn't get on with him.
Of course, cutting people out of his life is one his actions that hasn't made any sense . He's been alienating a lot of his old friends. He went back to the UK in January for a time-out to sort his head out and try and figure out what he wanted from life. While he was there he informed his sister, brother, XW1 and mother that he was never ever going back to England, not even for his mother's funeral when that time comes. I was still in contact with SIL at that time and she found it very hard to understand why he would say something like that.
Of course, the last time he visited with S13 in the middle of the week, he cancelled his Sunday visit. Guess I'd better come with some alternate plan just in case the same thing happens this week.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
. When I eventually responded I simply said "Thought you were coming round to do some packing tonight?" His response was almost immediate and was simply "Oh yeah, I'd forgotten that. I've slept once or twice since saying that." 
. He's been alienating a lot of his old friends. He went back to the UK in January for a time-out to sort his head out and try and figure out what he wanted from life. While he was there he informed his sister, brother, XW1 and mother that he was never ever going back to England, not even for his mother's funeral when that time comes. I was still in contact with SIL at that time and she found it very hard to understand why he would say something like that.