Originally Posted By: Pudmuddle
2nd, Did you ask her what "I need someone to take care of me" means to her? Sounds like you were trying to guess what she meant.

That was a perfect opportunity for you to listen and validate, to HEAR exactly what she means.


I did not. Maybe I should have. I have assumed it meant financially because that is where I was struggling at time of BD.

I am not sure when I will get another opportunity. I could text her.

Me-45
W-44
T-7 years
M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated)
Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)