I have been feeling very sad lately, as my divorce is looming. We are set to be divorced on Oct 16, and although I have asked H to push this back, he says he wants to move forward.
SB
I am sorry you are feeling sad... this is to be expected. A major part of your life is being tossed upside down. Try not to feel bad about feeling bad allow your feelings to be. I suffered pretty hard the week before and of the D date. It does get better focus on you and who knows what God has planned for your future. I have been involved in a 12 step program and boy oh boy has it helped me to deal with anger, sadness, loss, and just plain dealing with my emotions. Celebrate Recovery is a Christian 12 step program and it is not just for alcohol or drug dependency it is for anyone with a hurt, habit, or hang up. You may want to look into something in your area (it is free to attend).
Originally Posted By: sweetbriar
Has anyone else that has gone through this found themselves cycling before a divorce and really feeling down in the dumps? I just dont know if this means time to move on.
Completely normal. I cycled like crazy for about 2-3 weeks. What do you mean by time to move on? Dating or just getting on with your life? For me I am not actively looking for a girlfriend yet I have to much work on me and pain to deal with before I get involved with someone else. I am rebuilding my life and trying different things that I want to do. Motorcycles, running in races, 12 step program, volunteering through church, it all keeps me pretty busy and fulfilled at the moment.
What are you doing for yourself?
Originally Posted By: sweetbriar
His affair has now lasted 18 months and still seems to be going strong??? I dont think he want to marry her...but he seems to be loving the bachelor life and has mentioned to the kids about being a bachelor. He also has introduced OW to his family now...which really affected me. Like I have been totally replaced and that I wasnt worth anything. I felt betrayed all over again after I found that out.
I think the hardest part is totally letting go. Allowing people to live the life they want even if it is not what we want. Being happy that they are happy or think they are happy. Learning to take care of ourselves and love us no matter what other people do. If you can get to this point sweetbriar you will have grown tremendously you will be the wife only a fool would leave and awesome things will happen for you. You future is yours to build make it a great one.
I am sorry your hurting and hope you feel better soon. Believe me once the day passes you will slowly start to feel better as you rebuild the awesomeness that is sweetbriar.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
