Thanks again everyone for all of the support. So now I have a plan of action. Take it slow. Let him come to me, and let him talk first to see what he is thinking.

In the meantime, think of some boundaries/conditions:
-we both have to be willing to put in the required effort, to be able to move forward with our relationship and progress
-counseling would be needed; start out with IC and move to MC when we are ready

Am I missing anything?
-regards,
-cp

M: 8 yrs T:14
Twins:7 S:5
BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013
Mar/Apr/May: MC
June: "living in limbo"
Sept 12: H moves out
Oct 20: reconciling
Jan-Feb 2014:MC
Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.