I'm having trouble identifying goals. I guess one of them could be my intermittent need to talk about OR and showing anger. However, at the same time, sometimes I think what I say gets through to him. I feel like if I stop talking about OR, he will think I no longer care. It's a catch 22. I'm so confused.
It's not a Catch-22 but you are mind-reading and fortune-telling. Work on that, don't let your mind allow you to believe things that aren't facts.
In the scenario you poster, you're assuming you know what he's thinking. You don't. And if he thinks you no longer care and lets the marriage go, it wasn't going to happen anyway.
What you can do is, be different. Don't talk about the R. Every time you bring up the R he has to once again, think in his mind, or tell you why it's not going to work. The more he says it, the more he believes it.
Let go.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
