Time and Tide

[reachingHigher]

Hi FY!

Thanks for the update. You are doing so well!

I was thinking about you and W yesterday as I was musing on some of the things that H bought while he was out on his own. He completely outfitted his apartment with items from home and things he had bought. He seemed so happy when I would visit him there -- sweeping his own floor with his broom, making his meals, etc.

At the time I thought it was totally frightening for our M like ... why would he ever want to come back? And he assured me how happy he was -- and at times he did look that way.

Looking back, I realize it was a place he had to go. A place to become just "him" however he envisioned it.

Back to your W. After she gets the bedroom done and feels she has a place to become just "her" -- a new "her" factoring in all the changes she has been through -- I can totally see a scenario where she might want to court you again. Not saying if it will happen or not...but from a woman's perspective it could happen.

I think your W is loving the attention while out. Who wouldn't? My H was surrounded constantly with beautiful D women who would love nothing better than snagging him for a H or taking him to bed. And the FB comments confirmed this -- I wasn't imagining it.

My GF said about my H "he is in the best shape of his life, has lots of extra time and $--why would be ever come back?" (I had to distance myself from her for a while.)

But there's a time that loneliness sets in. Longing for something more permanent, loving and lasting than a few dances, a few drinks, uncertain future, and a helluva lot of baggage from previous broken R's.

I applaud you for hanging on, FY. You're doing great!!!!!

rH