So w and I went out to dinner. And then we came back to the house. She was definitely tempted to be with me but said she didn't think that I could do it without the emotional attachment. I asked if she could ... she said definitely... We talked for a while... Mostly she vented about her work and I did my best to validate... She is not happy.
She needs somebody to take care of her. I don't make enough money to pay all of her bills for her, but she could live here rent free... I am doing ok right now, but I get the feeling she wants more than she thinks I am capable of providing. She may be right. She is chasing a fantasy.. Anyway she admitted that when things get tough she runs. When she finally left, she said that she was running. I get the feeling that we won't have contact again for a while.
Part of me feels like she needs unconditional love and attention more than anything and that I Should not let her go. But that may be the exact opposite of what I should do. If I was giving myself advice I would probably say to go to no contact for a while... But part of me says that I really need to let her know that I will always be here for her... She doesn't have anyone else that truly loves her .. Her mother abandoned her as a child, her father had custody, but was not around and she mostly raised herself. Both of her parents are in her life now, but they both seem to care more about themselves than her...
Anyway... We'll see what happens over the next few days.
Me-45 W-44 T-7 years M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated) Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)
