Yes, timing seems important - I look forward (!) to more chances to react assertively, which I hope are coming. Case in point, as I imagine W will ask if I had a chance to think, I will say yes, and then express how I feel, and how that is not acceptable to me. Insults will presumably happen again too...
W is often a negative person - this or that is bad or stupid or other negative adjective - perhaps an MLC is happening (she is 51, and still pretty, but over 50 and hates birthdays...).
Sandi2's point about telling MIL about our marital difficulties should wait until after Christmas (I am back at MIL's house in January), I think, when I am really sure D is happening. My MIL has been so kind and generous and tolerant of my comings and goings (15 years now!) that I want to do this properly. MIL tells me that she loves me, and I guess that I am closer to her in some ways than her daughter (my W does not like or respect her mom).
Presumably the proper thing to do after having told her is then to move out of MIL's house, and take a room somewhere, so that MIL is not caught between me and my W.
No news from W at all. Daughter texted to say she is back from her school trip, and son sent short message too. This relationship building with kids is wonderful - thanks to all who said to text/write/whatever every day.
Should I give W only the one small book that she requested for Christmas?
L
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
