In Sept. of 2012 my H of 23 years told me I love you but I'm not sure if I'm “In Love” with you. He wanted to separate. I asked him if there was someone else and he said “no”, it would be easier if he could say there was but that was not the case and he wasn't looking for someone else. He said it's not about sex, that I was enough sex for him, he just wants to be alone. He doesn't know who he is and he needs time to find himself. We have been married for 23 years and together for 30 years. He is 54 and I am 51. We have a D27 and S25.
Our marriage was good, not much conflict. We built our house together in 1997. We did things together as a family and separately just the two of us. We enjoyed many activities together ie: scuba diving, dirt bike riding, hiking, and trips to Hawaii. We were best friends. Our relationship was envied by friends and family. Everyone including myself are devastated. I'm very close to my 2BIL's and SIL. Both of his parents are deceased.
I'm in the process of reading DB and will be reading DR next. My H is living 200 miles away from me and I'm not sure how to apply any of the DB skills with this kind of separation. We are basically at NC. I haven't spoken to him since the end of May. I need some guidance. Any comments are very appreciated.
M-51 H-54 D-28 S-25 M-23 years T-30 years BD-9/17/12 sep-9/19/12 husband living alone 4 hrs. away poss.OW discovered 6/13
