JonF: She moved out on BD day, filed about two weeks later. She filed a TRO a month or so after the D. She found out she was ill around the middle of the year and dropped the TRO so we could communicate. She asked for a couple of favors that I could not accommodate. My last communication offering to put her on my health insurance was accused of being manipulative and I was asked not to contact her again unless it was about the D. We had a hearing Thursday but I just got a call from my L that the judge rescheduled for later in the month.
Keep things simpatico....where did the "church" thing come from? No direct bearing on MIL's good wishes.
How about this:
"Thanks MILName, your good wishes are appreciated. Best to everyone and you too! Lefty"
You need to remember that your W most likely will see these messages on MIL's FB. It is a permanent record and you can't take things back once it is put out there on FB.
Wonka: These are PMs, not wall posts, so the W won't see them unless MiL shares or W snoops. The church thing came about because the MiL is very churchy and I was not until recently.
The church thing came about because the MiL is very churchy and I was not until recently.
That is the key. It seems you're trying to pander to her and get into her good graces. Not the time to do this. Just keep the PM simple and you can bet that it will eventually reach W's ears. Families do talk...ya know.
Hmm, I wonder. MiL & W have a very odd relationship. Still, you're right, I don't want to look like I'm pandering. That's why I ask you guys, I'm not very adept at this stuff.
So I found out earlier this week that our hearing for tomorrow was postponed by the judge. My L sent my W a notice yesterday, but I don't know if she got it today. Should I send her a text to let her know or just let it be?
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
