What I am trying to say is you have expressed your stance on the OM. Right now she needs to walk her own journey, figure out what she wants and needs. The only way she can do that is with time and space.
Do your 180's by all means, but do them for you, not her.
Do what you need to make yourself happy and healthy. If you do an activity and she wants to come, ask yourself what do you want? Will it help or hurt you to have her join? Do you want her there with you with the situation you are in right now?
Do not move out, that will be something that she needs to do if it comes to that.
IMO you are not at the point to where you hold her accountable. That comes later when you both are at the same place and working on the marriage, I don't see that right now.
Live your life and be the man you want to be. Be kind, caring and giving to your W. Listen to her and let your actions speak for you.
You can not make anything happen other than to yourself, changing yourself may change your situation, but do it for you.
this is not easy.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
