The six signs to a divorce sounded alot like what we had going on. Arguing about stupid stuff. Escalating fights, not physical. She said I over explained stuff. I apologized to much. I talked to much. Left my shoes on the floor. Alot of little things. She said there were glimmers of hope from me and the first 2 years were good. But, like I said she tells me via email not to put energy into healing the marriage.