Our H's really are very much alike! Mine is so cloak and dagger as well - and has been for months if I really think about it. It's been like pulling teeth to get anything out of him for a long time.
Maybe you and I should start being cloak and dagger as well . I'm pretty sure I'm still way too open with my H about what I'm doing, etc, etc.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks