I'm curious how you got your H to breakthrough to you as far as not running away when things get tough. My H does the exact same thing, instead of even thinking the remote possibility that he could work at something he runs! He has done this since he was 17, got angry at his parents, so he found a job in the mountains and moved out, w no regret. Just like now.
Make it safe for him to talk, just listen and hear him. Ultimately this is something he will have to find for himself. I too ran or walked away from conversations, in my head I already played them out and it was a conflict. Not fair to me or my W. I am now mindful of how vital communication is. It is a choice I make.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
