I don't think many people have the will the break off an affair without something dramatic happening, and most of the time I think they have to really sense the loss of their spouse. Until she really believes she may lose you, I think she will try to keep both of you in play.
Nicely said! I'm going to include this in my things to reread.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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