Thanks T^2! No more mention of our discussion. Lots of texting, including at 5 am this morning to ask how the govt shutdown might cause us problems. Seriously? Other than having to hear about it non-stop I expect we won't even know anything has changed. I'm being far more distant with her.
I have good moments and bad. I spoke to one of my good old friends yesterday. He is a family friend but also a former coworker. He's 66 and has an odd marriage situation. I had not spoken to him about my sitch but he had heard. It actually was a nice chat. Long story short, his wife left him 35 years ago, remarried, and had a child. Four years later called him out of the blue to apologize and asked for reconciliation. They did, remarried and are still together. We had a good laugh about it. His advice was to let her go and never look back lol. But he went on to say I understand that you can't so keep calm and try to let things work themselves out in their own time.
His wife has basically allowed the guilt from what she did destroy her life. She has not been able to forgive herself.
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
