LBH on the Left Coast IV: I Want To Believe

[LBH_LC]

Gloomy weather here today and I'm in kind of a cruddy mood (I'm 99% sure I have seasonal affliction disorder). For some reason it is sticking in my craw that the STBX uses the phrase "settle this like civilized mature adults" when she is the one who filed a bullshit TRO and refuses to communicate in anyway except for text messages.

Well, that's my rant for the day.

[LBH_LC]

Wow! I heard from my MiL for the very first time since BD over night. She sent me a message on Facebook about my new (svelte) profile pic. She said, "YOU are LOOKING GOOD <3"

I want to reply but not come off too intense. Here's what I am thinking:

"Thanks, [name]! I've lost about 110 pounds this year, feels good! Miss you and yours!"

Any thoughts?

[labug]

Lefty, sounds good but how about It's so nice to hear from you! instead of the "miss you" line?

[LBH_LC]

Instead of or in addition to? I've often thought of contacting my MiL since BD because even though we often didn't get along, I do miss her and I feel I owe her an apology for my occasional poor attitude towards her.

[labug]

Instead of. The miss you can be a loaded statement in this situation. If you miss her and want to see her, then invite her to get together or call or something. If you miss really miss her, take care of that, don't just make a statement about it that leaves it hanging.

[jp787]

Instead of. The miss you can be a loaded statement in this situation. If you miss her and want to see her, then invite her to get together or call or something. If you miss really miss her, take care of that, don't just make a statement about it that leaves it hanging.

Actions instead or with words!
Thanks for this labug ~

[LBH_LC]

This was her reply:

"I pray the BESt for you, don't give up the fight, my love to your family <3"

I'm not sure how to reply, or if I should. I'm not sure what she means by "the fight." Is she speaking in general or does she know I am trying to DB?

I'd like to reply, I just don't want to make things worse or get hurt.

Here's what I'm thinking. "Thanks [Name]. I'm started going to church and I pray for all of you too. I miss you! My best to everyone."

[JayMan]

I'd go simpler: "Thanks, miss you, my best to everyone". The church stuff sounds like you're trying to get points to me. Just a thought...

[JayMan]

P.S. If your W filed divorce 9 months ago, what's happened in between?

[jp787]

A smiley face is always a safe reply