I decided to not respond to W. About 5 hours later, she sent just "????". I decided not to respond again.
There's no reason not to at least be civil about it. She's no doubt perceiving this as you exacting some revenge on her for BD. Just reply back and work something out with her, get the silly thing out of your house.
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I also am going to take S5 and D10 to the YMCA pool on Wednesday so I can just drop them off and not see W - that way I don't have to decide how to act at this point.
You should act "as if" whenever you see her. That means to act as if everything is fine, like you fully accept your sitch and you are OK with it. Also project PMA. Be confident, happy, independent.
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Interestingly enough, I had a great night - ate dinner with a friend, and went over to another friends house to watch some Monday Night Football. My one friend told me several people pointed out that they noticed I had lost weight, and was funny, relaxed, and just enjoyed hanging around with me. The guy that hosted our Friday night get-together even told my friend "YES! JonF is coming!"
Awesome stuff, that's EXACTLY what you should be projecting around your W as well!
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In talking with several people, it was my first realization that everyone around me has given up on W.
Don't read anything into that. They're just telling you what they think you want to hear. They'll turn around and do the same with your W.
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I could walk away right now and everyone that knows us would know it was her
As 25 says, "drop the scorecard".
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I'm not angry anymore
Be patient with yourself, you're still cycling. It was just 3 days ago that you wrote "I am angry - furious even." I know you want to be "cured" of this, but it's a long journey and you'll cycle back and forth through a full range of emotions. You're not done yet!
