A Fresh, New Day

[Pudmuddle]

As I mentioned in my last thread I was commenting on how my H was spending most of his time nights and weekends at home and then BAMMO! he decided to go 'watch a football game in a sportsbar', at least that was his lie. He didn't return until 11 last night, game was over at 5:30.

Perhaps I missed this from your other thread, but why is this bothering you so much? Do you think he was with an OW? Or just partying with his buddies? If the latter, why is that an issue? How do you know he was lying?

I do think it was with OW. He never has had many buddies to go out with. But you're right I don't know anything for sure

I just commented one word syllables and then when he said Ok, have a good day. I just said Yup. I just felt I couldn't say anything of great length or my emotions would come flying out. Not the best way to handle it but it worked as I reminded myself before I spoke. (kinda a 180)

I'm not sure that's a 180, by your own admission you were indifferent towards him during your depression and so to him this might look like "more of the same" behavior. A 180 might be to project PMA no matter what he's doing or what mood he's in.
Yes, this is what I am struggling with. I'm trying to detach but yet remain in contact because of what I did before. So I get very confused on how to do it correctly in my sitch

So I think I will have to find things to do outside the house instead of being at home. But then I worry about my S and making him feel left out.

You can absolutely involve your S in GAL activities. GAL just means get out and do stuff without your spouse. It can be solo, with your kids, with friends, with family, or even with new people you don't know.