Nope, not very Christian, but H does have it coming to him. His usual reaction though is "too much BS at the legion these day, don't go there when I'm not working" (and that is where he works so I'm sure he probably hears it even when he's there on his own). Hmmm, sounds like he doesn't like hearing the truth
The only excuse I've got for not decluttering is that too much of H's stuff is still taking up space. That and I'm lazy - just kidding on that last bit . Seriously, with the weather getting cooler, and wetter, I'll be more motivated to stay indoors so maybe I'll stop using H's stuff as an excuse. I've got loads of packing boxes in the garage - I can quite easily box his stuff up and make a list of what I put in which box so he can figure it out when he gets it back to his place. I'll give him another week or so to do it himself, then I think S13 and I will spend a Saturday and get it taken care of . I can start reorganizing the space that he's already vacated, or that he never had anything of his in anyway like my kitchen - those cupboards could really do with a good clean-out and reorganization.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I like the decluttering method of pulling everything out of a closet or cabinet, sorting it into keep/trash/donate/recycle and then putting the survivors back in an organized fashion.
Problem is, I'm stalled at pulling everything out - of everywhere!
In a fit of motivation I pulled some more stuff out of the closet. I have been gathering W's thinks to put into one closet or storage boxes or trash bin. Just kidding about the bin.
But, I put all the food away. Perfect be damned. Good enough. And it is much better organized than it was. As good as I can do now without adding shelves to the ridiculously large and deep cabinets. With just me living here, I can make do as is, at least for a while.
Unfortunately, I got this fit of motivation at midnight, so here it is just about 1 am.... Now I'm all wound up!
lol MH. You both make me feel very lazy I normally adopt the keep/trash/recycle/charity shop approach as well. That seems to be the flylady approach as well My cupboards aren't my problem, they are always decluttered on a regular basis. It's not having the room that's the problem. I've got my beauty stuff everywhere in my bedroom ready to go to my new beauty salon, plus a lot of other stuff at the foot of the bed waiting to be sorted out one day
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
NQ, not hijacking but just a quick note that it may not be a great idea to have your son help pack up his dads belongings. Also, I personally would not bother to make a list of what is in each box.
Sorry,MH...hope things pick up a little for you but glad to see you and W are still getting together. As someone else mentioned, for some reason she has decided to hold off on D for now, so keep using that to your advantage!
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
NQ, not hijacking but just a quick note that it may not be a great idea to have your son help pack up his dads belongings. Also, I personally would not bother to make a list of what is in each box.
I agree lth, but it was S13's idea to do it - he's got his eye on his dad's bookshelf and is anxious to have space . Otherwise I wouldn't let him anywhere near his dad's packing - that's a job strictly for my H to deal with and it had better be soon .
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I like the decluttering method of pulling everything out of a closet or cabinet, sorting it into keep/trash/donate/recycle and then putting the survivors back in an organized fashion.
Problem is, I'm stalled at pulling everything out - of everywhere!
I'm stalled at starting the pulling everything out stage LOL
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I like the decluttering method of pulling everything out of a closet or cabinet, sorting it into keep/trash/donate/recycle and then putting the survivors back in an organized fashion.
Problem is, I'm stalled at pulling everything out - of everywhere!
I'm stalled at starting the pulling everything out stage LOL
Me too NQ lol. If it all gets pulled out, it'll stay there for a while! lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
So, had tonight's adventure in town. Went to my meditation class, had dinner and a good walk. Was lugging my backpack with work computer in it. I was going to go to library and work after class, but there wasn't enough time after eating and walking.
So, remember flirty waitress? Tonight, I was hit up on by drunk lady in cab. After apologizing for being silly drunk - and blaming it on work! - something to do with a meeting to learn about wine. Anyhoo. She said "you're cute." And went on and on. After she got out I told the cabbie I thought I played it cool, not taking advantage of the nice drunk lady. He said "you did good."
It does make a person feel good to be flirted with and/or asked out, that's for sure!
But... it's soooo hard to stay on the straight and narrow path when faced with temptation. This is why I do understand why otherwise good people give in to such temptations. When needs aren't being met....
Geez, maybe next week I better head straight home after class and not look anyone in the eye. LOL.
TTD and NQ - I stopped into a little market that has a lot of imported goods. They have Curly Wurlys! Yum. I also got a Kinder Chocolate bar. Hey, I'm a kid at heart, right?
- just kidding on that last bit 
. Seriously, with the weather getting cooler, and wetter, I'll be more motivated to stay indoors so maybe I'll stop using H's stuff as an excuse. I've got loads of packing boxes in the garage - I can quite easily box his stuff up and make a list of what I put in which box so he can figure it out when he gets it back to his place. I'll give him another week or so to do it himself, then I think S13 and I will spend a Saturday and get it taken care of 
