Don't keep letting her bully you into getting what she wants. Have that go through your legal counsel. If she keeps bullying you and you give in, she will keep doing it.
Bond, it's hard for me to grasp the flow of their interactions. But on Mother's Day, she was sharing HER time with him. I don't know why there was a problem with Bruce/Brahim on that.
I can see they both seem edgy when they talk. And Bruce, your insistence that things like blame be equally apportioned has gotten you nowhere.
Bruce, It's the same stance you always took.
I'm glad you are doing some things differently, like waiting 24 hours before responding. And finally really liking your time with your son.
Are your parents there with you now? Living there or visiting?
As for the order of the divorce filing, 1) I am not sure why this matters, and
2) I do recall Bruce filing at one point, because he felt his wife was keeping their son from him.
I don't know if she technically filed a custody order or a divorce filing first, or if he did. But this tit for tat is just silly.
Who cares?
Refer your disputes to the lawyers until you BOTH can sit down and not get too flustered. I would not make it a dinner b/c that makes it seem forced and as if you want her to commit to time with you and that makes her uncomfortable.
IF it does not, if she becomes comfortable with a dinner or lunch with you, don't play a game with her. Don't pretend that you are new friends without a past.
But show her that you are NOT the tempermental irritable petty person you sometimes sound like here.
NO MORE MEASURING BLAME even if she does.
Model accountability for her & Stop making her "just as" wrong.
And when she is telling you her complaints,
BE GRATEFUL for the feedback. Instead of defending yourself,
tell her that "IF you had it all to do over again, you would do many things differently"...
That shows you understand the need for change in YOU and regret about your mistakes, without being a doormat.
At some point once you have told her all the regrets you have, specifically so she can KNOW you really truly "get it",
then you can later on tell her "W, I apologized for X back in the autumn. I still regret it but I prefer focussing on our future raising son now. Can we move forward, since I promise you I have not forgotten my many errors,
OR do you want to talk about them some more?" She will let it go when she thinks there has been some resolution.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
