ToMrBond,25yearsmic,big bruce,Lostinscared,crimson

[25yearsmlc]

I am making it one email per day not to over do things. So she says i have huge ego and was not owning my actions and decisions. she says i was responsible for all hurt feelings and i should own up to them.this was in response to email i sent saying i feel sorry and hurt for what she has gone through. She wants to hear: X, i am sorry for what i did to you.

but you refuse to do this? ^^^ Why? What does it cost you to say you are sorry and that you caused most of the problems? You know you made huge mistakes. You practically ignored her AND your son for almost 2 years.

Why should you Not say "x"? Don't let your pride stop you from making progress.

Good grief. You said you loved her and wanted the family to stay together and this woman gave you exactly what she wanted to hear...

and you say..."she has to own her part". You sound like a 6 y/o.

You know better by now. You are better by now.



i sent the email michele sent this AM at 6 am as some thing to think. invited her for dinner on my sons BD on 30 th, she says i can take him for dinner but she need some time to go out with me for dinner. Fair enough, i just want her to realize what her role is and if she really owes up to her actions and choices. not sure if i should include it. i want to accept only if she honesty accepts her part

its GOT to be FAIR

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I completely totally DISAGREE with^^^^ your approach.


Once AGAIN, your ego is taking over.

Once again your need to be "RIGHT" is more important than all else.

Once again, your stubborn refusal to see that it was YOU who was cruel to your wife

you who felt inconvenienced by your son, YOU who felt he was boring and just said "bah bah bah"...

I hope and like to think you are doing better now. You sound like it some days...

except when it comes to the past. It's YOU who won't own it & YOU WHO MUST. From your own words we unanimously found you seriously lacking and then you threatened to call her unstable if you didn't get your way in court.

I mean you were shameful and just b/c your screen name has changed, I still recall your story in detail. Make no mistake, you SEEM smarter when you are around her. And

I understand your desire to "go from this day forward",

but of course your wife FEARS that you will repeat the old behavior

And if you refuse to admit it, if you cannot even see it,

then it's a lot more likely that you WILL REPEAT IT.

She must/will resist any reconciliation b/c you refuse to tell her what she needs to hear to feel safe with you.

Your "addiction" to being the martyr, is done at your peril.