Hey FY, thats great wife might go to the gym. It will help her, I think.
And good for you for going to a therapist. I dont know where I would be if it werent for mine. She is amazing. Nice to bounce stuff off of someone who isnt emotionally invested at all.
It is true, you will know when you are done. There will be no more bouncing around when you are absolutely sure. Just steely resolve.
So, there isnt anything wrong with being unsure. All part of the process.