I would say if you feel like it is moving in a direction that feels right, no matter how slight, it doesn't matter what other people think! It's your field to plow, do it the way you wanna.<--I don't know where that came from, I must be tired.
Funny you talk about not knowing when women are picking up on you. My H used to be that way and we used to joke about it. Now he thinks he is god's gift to women. sigh.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.